REASONS TO ACCESS THERAPY

You don't need to be at crisis point to seek support

BEEN THROUGH A BIG LIFE CHANGE?

  • Change of any kind even if it’s positive can lead to emotional and physical stress. Change creates confusion often because you’re all of a sudden in a situation where you don’t know what to expect. 

  • It’s obviously going to rattle your sense of self to deal with a painful change, like the death of someone close to you, finding out your long-term partner has been cheating or receiving a life-altering medical diagnosis therefore talking about your lived experience can help make sense  of what is impacting you.

  • There are times when even good changes can be overwhelming. If you’re feeling overburdened or anxious in a new job, or overwhelmed with a new baby, seeking help might be a good idea.

REPEATING UNHEALTHY BEHAVIOUR OR THOUGHT PATTERNS

  • There are so many different kinds of destructive behaviours for example drug or alcohol abuse, self harm, restricting food intake, binge eating, choosing the wrong kinds of romantic partners, having unsafe sex or engaging in violent confrontations. 

  • It's useful to remember that it is common for people to make missteps which occasionally veer into risky behaviour. But when you can’t stop the behaviour, if it’s interfering with your ability to function properly in your daily life, or it’s negatively affecting your relationships, it’s time to pause and seek help. 

  • For some people, the stakes might not seem as big — maybe your behaviour isn’t unhealthy but your thoughts are, and they are constant. If you’re caught in a cycle of shame, cruel self-talk or unhealthy fantasies, then counselling can work to interrupt the cycle. 

YOU FEEL LIKE YOUR LIFE IS BEING INTERRUPTED BY TRAUMA FROM YOUR PAST

  • Some people who experience trauma are affected by it in immediate and obvious ways. But post-traumatic stress can manifest in many different ways. It can be subtle and gradual. Many people will have some combination of both instant and delayed reactions, and in some cases those delayed reactions can happen long after the event.

  • The types of delayed reactions trauma survivors might endure include intrusive memories or flashbacks, self-blame, preoccupation with the event, depression, emotional detachment, sleep disturbances, magical thinking as a way to prevent future trauma, and hopelessness.

  • There’s no single way to “get over” past trauma, but if you can’t stop thinking about your trauma, or you’re isolating yourself because of fear it will happen again, there are ways to cope and these can be explored during Counselling.

YOU HAVE BIG DECISIONS TO MAKE

  • A good counsellor won’t make the choice for you — that’s not their job. What they will do is work with you so that you can figure out the right answer for yourself. A therapist provides you with support, a neutral space to talk and tools to figure out what it is you really want.

  • While working collaboratively we will work to help you by breaking down “all-or-nothing” thinking — there’s no “right” or “wrong” decision about whether to have a child, for instance. There are two choices that could both be right, and your job is to figure out which one you’re more suited to.

  • A lot of our our decisions are weighted by expectations from our families and friends, our partners or society at large — a Counsellor can help you better understand what will actually work for you.

YOUR RELATIONSHIP FEELS UNHEALTHY OR HAS JUST ENDED

  • It can be easy to forget or minimize when you’re not living through it, but heartbreak can be incredibly painful. That’s normal but there are times when it is useful to talk to an unbiased professional on the impact a relationship is having on you .

  • As humans we are continually in some form of relationship from romantic, friendship or career; they give us a sense of identity and connectivity. A counsellor can help you evaluate any relationship you are concerned about to empower you to decide to either strengthen or leave a bad relationship, and can help with coping techniques if it ends.

  • A therapist can also help you examine the specific issues in your relationship. Do you unconsciously seek out partners with the same unhealthy qualities? Have you experienced the same kinds of issues in different relationships? If you feel like you’re repeating the same mistakes, that’s a sign that you could use some help.

YOU ARE QUESTIONING YOUR IDENTITY AND VALUE

  • As Humans we have a need to be social and have connectivity with others however there can be a disconnect if  you are trying to fit into a society that doesn't 'get' you. There can be  a sense of loneliness and isolation in not being recognised for who you are.

  • Being expected to conform and adapt to the ideals of others  can bring  a sense of shame, lack of self belief or perhaps bouts of anger.  Other peoples ideals or expectations of how  you should behave or be identified as can lead to you deviating away from the true you which can then manifest in mental health issues .

  • Counselling can offer a place for you to safely and non-judgmentally explore what it means to be you and allow you to recognise your individual value.

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